Going to the Big Guy

I have a little kitty named Frank. He is about 9 months old, so he’s not that little. A better description is that he’s young. He has an extremely fluffy tail and distinctive orange stripes on his sides. Tufts of hair curl out of his ears like a bobcat. He really is a beautiful cat. (Since I had nothing to do with it, I can say that and not feel like I’m bragging.)

Frank came to live with us when he was four weeks old. He was sitting in the middle of the street when a woman almost ran over him. He was covered in burrs. She took him to our veterinarian’s office where they cleaned him up.  They knew we were looking for a kitten so they called us. One look and we fell in love. Being four weeks old he had to be fed every four hours. And also being four weeks old he had to be coaxed to go to the bathroom by rubbing his bottom with a cotton ball soaked in warm water. I knew mama cats licked their kittens to clean them, but I did not know they licked them to make them go. You learn something every day.

He got his name because he toddled across the kitchen floor with his legs stiff like Frankenstein. As he grew, it became obvious that his stiff-legged walk is due to some abnormality in either his hips or his knees. His snout is also a bit short. Maybe that’s why his mama abandoned him. She knew he had some things that would make it hard for him to survive in the wild. Stiff legs and a short snout don’t matter when you’re an inside cat. All manner of abnormalities are possible to live with in the ease and safety of a house.

Immediately, we noticed that Frank has an attraction to paper. For the first few weeks he was with us he lived in the kitchen. When we would crumple up a piece of paper to throw it away, Frank would turn his complete attention to the sound. We’d throw the paper on the floor. He’d bat it around and chase after it until it was as thin and limp as a tissue.

Frank's Fascination
Frank’s Fascination

Since he was so young and no mama to lick him clean, I had a routine of bathing him. He loved it. Being in the water didn’t seem to bother him at all. I’d blow his fur dry, wrap him in a towel and he’d fall asleep, just like a real baby. That was our first clue that he likes water. Once he got big enough to have the run of the house, we noticed that he had a fascination with the toilet. He’d put his paws on the toilet seat and watch the flushing action–we call it a swirly. The bigger he got and the more agile, he would run into the bathroom when either my husband or I would go in there. He even followed our friend Larry into the bathroom. Frank gave him quite a start when he came up between his legs to watch the action.

These are the cute things Frank does. But he also does something that is not so cute: he bites. As a kitten we thought he’d outgrow it. And besides, his baby teeth weren’t sharp enough to hurt. As his adult teeth came in and he got bigger and stronger, it ceased to be cute. The first thing we tried was a spray bottle filled with water. That didn’t seem to be the deterrent we were hoping for. We added vinegar, just a little. That worked better. We used it so much that Frank cringed when he even saw the bottle. We left the bottle unattended a couple of times and he hid it. Unlike Frank, we learned our lesson quickly. A dog-trainer friend suggested saying “Baa!” in a deep, loud voice when he bites. It works by distracting him from the biting to the sound. So we tried that and it works sometimes. But not always. Not as consistently as the vinegar.

Finally, I decided to pray about it. I felt like Ralphie in the movie A Christmas Story when he tried everything to get the “Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action Two-Hundred-Shot Range Model Air Rifle” on his Christmas list. He expressed his desire to his mom and his teacher. Then he thought of the big guy, Santa Claus. Like Ralphie, I had tried everything I could think of. Then I remembered THE big guy, God. He made Frank. He’ll know what to do. He can make him stop biting.

So Frank has a regular line on my prayer list right up there with my husband and my kids. I pray for him when it’s my turn to bless the meal. I pray for him when I’m petting and cuddling him. (His saving grace is that he can be very affectionate.) I can’t say that there has been a miraculous change; but he is getting better. I say that all the time and Butch makes fun of me. But he is getting better.

Sarah Young in her devotional book Jesus Calling, suggests that once you ask God for something, you should not ask again. After making the original request, instead of asking again and again, you should simply thank him for working to answer your prayer. Well, I’m not so good at the thankfully waiting thing. I’ve asked and asked. I’m waiting, trusting (and in the meantime asking again) that God will change his creation named Frank.

I really do need to work on that thankfully waiting part. Perhaps some divine vinegar would help.

We Need More Women Like This

Have you ever had a time when something you’ve puzzled about just clicked into place?

I had this happen on New Year’s Eve at a memorial service for my favorite Sunday School teacher. Now, I had a lot of Sunday School teachers. My family went to church every Sunday: Sunday School and church (that’s what we called the worship service) so there was a lot of competition for the favorite. This teacher was my favorite not because she was the wittiest, although she was witty, or the prettiest, although she was pretty, or the coolest (no, Mrs. Kallina could not be described as cool). Mrs. Kallina had a characteristic that was far above all of those traits. Mrs. Kallina cared.

I was a freshman in high school when I was in her class. I came from a very dysfunctional family. One of our symptoms was that we kept secrets. I can still hear my mom say things like “Don’t let the neighbors see you do that” or “If the neighbors knew you did that, what would they think”. Now I suppose that we did have some neighbors who were interested in what we did, but mostly I think it was my mom’s own fear of not being good enough or not being accepted that caused her to say things like that. So as a 14 or 15-year-old kid, I had a lot of fears and kept a lot of secrets, because I thought that if people knew fill-in-the-blank then they wouldn’t like me or approve of me or whatever the imagined consequences might be of their finding out.

This was the girl who sat in Mrs. Kalina’s classroom and admired her and hung on her every word and wanted to be like her in every way. Now that I’m all grown up and have a lot of experience under my belt, I am sure she knew what was going on with me. Mrs. Kallina knew my mom and dad.  She was a wise woman and was particularly plugged in with God. But she never said anything to me about any of this until the next year when I was a sophomore.

Even though I was no longer in her class she sensed something was wrong. And something was wrong. I was having trouble figuring out about boys and dating and how to go about all of that in a healthy way. One day she called me and asked me to come over to her house. I did and we sat in her living room. I didn’t understand it at the time, but she was reaching out to me. However, all that echoed in my head was “What would the neighbors think?” or, in this case, “What would Mrs. Kallina think?”. So I didn’t open up: “Everything was fine, no problems at all”. She gave me a little book called God’s Will and Your Life. I admired her so. I was embarrassed that I wasn’t doing life right. I didn’t want her to know. And I didn’t want God to know either. Of course the reasonable thing to do was ignore the book.

At her service, those chosen to eulogize her spoke of her prayers and what an integral part of her life praying was. I realized then that she had been praying for me when I was a young teenager. I knew deep in my heart that was how she knew something was going on with me, something I needed help with. And I wouldn’t, or couldn’t, open up. How different my life might have been if I had talked to her! And then God reminded me that without her prayers how much worse my life would have been. How many more mistakes might I have made if she had not been praying for me? Her prayers protected me.

One of the eulogizers said “We need more women like Mrs. Kallina”. Yes, we do. More women who pray, who care, who reach out. More women who change and protect lives by quietly praying and reaching out to those they pray for, acting on the promptings they experience in prayer.

With the help of Mrs. Kallina’s prayers, I managed to struggle through my problems and grow up. I married the man I have been married to for 43 years. I began teaching teenagers in Sunday School just like Mrs. Kallina. When I was a young adult, I had an opportunity to tell Mrs. Kallina that she was my favorite Sunday School teacher and that I was trying to be just like her. She smiled her lovely smile and shook her head. I had embarrassed her. I didn’t know then what she had done for me simply by praying for me at my most confused time. What I owe her will not be known this side of heaven. I have a feeling that when I tell her when I see her in heaven, she’ll just smile her lovely smile and point to God who, of course, is the one who worked in her and in me to bring about his purposes.

Yes, we need more women like Mrs. Kallina. Women who will pray for children who are the least, or lost, or lonely. Thank you, Mrs. Kallina, for all you did for me.